Why is he cheating on me?

by Elana

I've known this man for 5 years, slept with him, text everyday, but he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship because of something in his past. I found out he had a girlfriend for the past year. I confronted him but he just walked away and never contacted me again.

2 months later he contacted me and said his girlfriend found out about us and that he wanted me to tell her that we were only friends and never had sex. I refused, will not lie for him. He swore at me and called me a lot of bad names. He texted me the next day and apologized.

We went on a date two weeks later and were together from then on for 7 months. He said he loved me. I then found out he was with another women, living with her while pretending to be my boyfriend. I confronted him and he denied it and cut me totally out of his live.

Why is he doing this to me?


My answer:

He is doing it because he can and you are letting him. It is as simple as that.

Being good, loving and giving towards a man you care for will not make him treat you right. You can't give and give and give and somehow hope that he will be true to you. You need to treat yourself right first.

If you see yourself as someone that is special, unique and attractive, someone that should only be treated in a respectful way then you would start expecting the best. You will be sending a message (vibe) out that you will only go for the best. If someone that doesn't fit that mold come into your world, you will be able to walk away since you are worth only the best. If you love yourself more you will only want the best for yourself and automatically move away from men that are "bad"

Read How to build self esteem to help you with this. Try to put this bad experience behind you and open yourself up to find someone that is worth your time and energy.