Waiting before getting married

by Shreya
(Mumbai,maharashtra, india)

I am first year engineering student one guy who loves me very much and well settled in his life wants to marry me but my parents arent agreeing for dis instead of making them understand that he is a good boy and he cant wait for 3 years due to his parents pressure to marry


My answer:

This is such a difficult situation for you and the outcome in die end will mean some sort of compromise to all of you. I'm going to try to give you different senario's:

1. He can convince his parents that waiting to get married to the right girl (you) is wise and the right thing to do - difficult with traditional parents, but possible if the convincing is done with respect, wisdom and support from other family members and influential friends.

2. You give up your studies (and future dreams) and marry - not a good option in my opinion. It will cause you much unhappiness in the long term. You and your dreams are also important.

3. Marry him but continue with your studies. Is that possible? Will both your families support that and help you along the way? Are you ready to be married now?

You don't say how old you are? If you are still very young, wait. Marriage is a life-long commitment. Take time to enjoy being young and unattached. If you are meant to be with him, allow fate to take over and let things happen as they should.

Your fist question to yourself should be: What is the best for "me" in this situation? Will this help me grow as a person? Is this what I am meant to do? If you do what is right for you, everything else will fall into place.

It is difficult for me to truly advise you since I don't know the details of your situation and even less of how things are done in your families. I can only ask you to be calm, to think carefully and do the right thing for you.