Will he treat me well?

How does he treat you?

In order for you to figure out if he is going to treat you well, respect you, love you, help you grow, support you, be there for you … ask yourself some of the following questions:

Are you important to him?
Are your feelings and thoughts important to him?
Does he respect your choices?
Does he know about and respect your dreams?
How does he act when you are down or not feeling well?
Does he celebrate your victories? however small they are?
Does he really, really listen to you?
Does he understand you?
Does he do little things to make your life easier?
Do you have an equal partnership?
Is your career important to him, even though you make less money than him?
Is he available to you when you need him?
Is he loyal to you?
Does he treat you equally well in public and in private?
Is he attentive to you needs and comforts?
Is his interest in you hormone-driven or real?


How does he treat the other women in his life

You need to take a look at his relationships with his mother, sisters, female co-workers, and female friends. You can use the quality of these relationships as a good predictor of how he will treat you if you two ever get married.

Ask yourself the following questions:

How does he treat his mother?
Does he have a close, healthy, loving relationship with her?
Is she important to him or just a Christmas time chore?
Is he protective, respectful and appreciative towards her?
Is he comfortable being around women?
Does he have female friends?
If not, does he have difficulty getting on with women?
Does he see women as equals or objects or as a separate species?

Does he have healthy boundaries when dealing with the opposite sex?
How does he get on with his female co-workers?
How does he talk to women in general?
Does he respect women?
Does he understand of at least try to understand women?


What about Mommy and Daddy

The relationship between his parents (good or bad) was his first exposure, example and imprint made on him concerning male-female relationships. This experience will shape and influence his future relationships.

If his parents had a good, healthy partnership you can relax a bit. If however, their relationship were bad, you need to be careful or at least be aware that he has to work much harder at being a good partner in order to overcome these negative modeling.

Did they build each other up or break each other down?
Did his parents have a mutually supportive partnership?
Did his father treat his mother well?
Did they deal with bad times as a team, helping and sustaining each other?
How did his parents communicate with each other?
Were they able to listen and accommodate each other?
How did his parents deal with conflict?
Were their conflict resolution constructive or destructive?

Finding answers to these question won't be easy, but it will give you a very clear indication if he will treat you well.





To learn more about finding Mr Right, go to:

Is he Mr Right?
When seeking Mr Right you need to be prepared, ask the right questions and know what to watch out for, so that you can make an informed decision.

Will he commit?
If you are in a stage of your life where you want a meaningful connection and a real commitment flowing from that connection, you need to be able to recognize a partner that is ready for commitment as well.

Will he be a good parent?
If you dream for your future includes having children or if you already have children of your own, you will want to known if you are dating a person who are capable of being a good parent.

Does he have personality flaws?
We all know there are bad people out there: people who lie, cheat, steal or abuse. When dating you need to be able to recognize them and protect yourself from them.