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Symptoms of low self esteem
Low self esteem signs
What are the symptoms of low self esteem?
I have compiled a list of symptoms of low self esteem to help you decide if you need a little help with this.
Work your way through the signs of low self esteem listed below to see if there are areas you need to pay attention to.
You need to be very honest and objective. See it as a fact finding mission to identify low self esteem signs.
Relationship sabotage
Do you sabotage a relationship before it even had a chance to take off? Do you tend to do things to mess things up? Can it be that you somehow feel that a good relationship doesn’t happen to someone like you, and that you unconsciously undermine it before you disappoint or are disappointed once again?
Avoiding real emotional intimacy
Is it difficult for you to open up and to connect with someone on a deep emotional level? Do you feel somehow “lacking” and fear you will loose your partner if he figures out who you really are? Were you perhaps abandoned or rejected in a previous relationship and don’t want to be hurt again? Maybe you feel: “I can never have love?"
Do you tend to overreact?
Do you have exaggerated responses when something goes wrong? Do you need things to happen in a certain way? Are your reactions too subjective? Are you overly sensitive to criticism, but are overly critical of others? Do you lack energy or see small tasks as large, overwhelming and intimidating?
Lacking social skills
Do you feel that the opposite sex is a totally different species? Don’t know how to communicate with your partner? Do you either feel excessively anxious, confused or rather numb when trying to understand your partner? Do you avoid social situations? Do you feel psychologically isolated, lacking a supportive network? Do you have low levels of self-awareness or are you unaware how your behavior impacts your partner?
Constantly putting yourself down
Are your self talk a constant stream of negativity? Do you use terms like “I can’t …” or “I’ll never have …” or “I’m not …?” Do you apologize for you lack of abilities? Do you feel the need to explain that you are not good enough/clever enough/pretty enough? Do you avoid new challenges because of your fear of failure? Do you look to others to help you choose or decide? Are you overly concerned over what other people might think of you? Is it difficult for you to accept a compliment?
Being in the now
Instead of being in the present, are you focused on the future or on what happened in the past? Are you constantly replaying what happened in the past over and over in your mind? Do you have difficulty focusing on what is happening now? Are you reacting to present events in ways that is directed to or applicable to things that happened in the past? Can you separate your past from now?
Dreaming about greener grass
Are you dissatisfied with your life? Do you feel that what you need is just out of reach? Do you need more that what you have now to be happy? Do you feel that you need certain things to make you content? Do you need things outside of “you” to make you feel happy and satisfied? Do you feel: “if only I had …” or “if he just …?”
Addictions
What is you addiction? Drugs? Alcohol? Food? Shopping? Music? Outbursts? Sport? Exercising? Do you need “something” to make you feel better? Do you cover up unhappy or uncomfortable feelings with addictive behavior? Instead of staying with your uncomfortable feelings and changing your live, do you hide behind addictive behaviors to bypass the whole growth process? Can you identify what your addiction is covering up or hiding from you?
Avoidance
Do you have explanations and excuses for everything? Are you life just too busy for you to deal with the feelings that you keep hidden? Are you just too tired or too overloaded to work on yourself? Do you rather explain something away instead trying and failing? Are you reluctant to express yourself? Do you need to be in control? Are you a bit of a bully?
As you worked through the list of symptoms of low self esteem, did you start to realize that there are areas in you life you need to pay attention to? Need a little help?
