should i trust him again

by angela
(accra ghana)

i meet a boy online,i never seen him before but he propose to me on phone which i accepted.we are so in love dat we cant cut a call when we finish talking.i talked to a friend of his who asked me to find him one of of my friend.

i decided to give him a cousin of mine so my boyfriend took my cousin's number for his friend,later i got to my boyfriend calls her and even promised visit her.latly i got to know he went to visit her and slept in her room but did not have sex with her, he has apologised and promise it will not repeat itself what do i do


My answer:

You need to be very careful with this boy.

Firstly he proposed to you over the phone without knowing you at all. That is irresponsible and immature. Making an impulsive life changing decision over the phone shows he is not capable of caring for you. You want someone to think carefully and plan a future (commitment, money, home, children) before asking you. Not just ask because he "feels" like it at that moment.

Secondly he made a commitment to you when he proposed to you. He is not keeping this commitment since he is visiting other girl(s). In other words: he is not honest with you.

I know being in love is wonderful and it will hurt badly if you break it off with him, but rather find love with a boy that is honest, caring and won't hurt you.

Remember - you will only get the best if you expect the best and don't settle for second best.