Create your potential partner wish-list

Use this as your compass, showing you the way to selecting the right partner for you. When compiling you list, consider what kind of person you are (refer back to the “best of you” list ) and then focus on what type of partner will fit and nurture your personality.

Set a bit of time aside and make a list of everything you want and need in a partner. Use the list below to assist you. Take your time and be very clear in your thinking.

1. Personality

2. Social skills

3. Relationship type


Seek permanence and completeness from relationship

Emotionally expressive

Affectionate

Romantic

Intense

Actively involved parenting style

Needs to control

Share responsibility for money

Supportive

Highly sexual

Find identity through relationship

Aloof and doesn’t need or give much attention

See sharing as a way to grow and change

Compassionate but level-headed

Money-motivated and a go-getter who must have all the creature comforts

Value faithfulness and loyalty

Bohemian free spirit who doesn’t need many creature comforts

Believe in equality between partners

Demands to get his way

Need and want separate identity and life

Open to compromise

Inseparable from you

Needs a lot of personal space

4. Spiritual compatibility


Spirituality center around the conviction that there is more to life than what can be seen, and is often inter-weaved with religion, as well as self-improvement. Consider how you feel about this matter very carefully when compiling your partner wish-list to prevent problems in your future relationship.

Share your belief system and actively pursue it

Irregular attentiveness to the same beliefs as you

Not interested, but comes from the same background as you do

Totally opposite from your beliefs

Beliefs in a higher power, but do not participate or pursue a belief-system

Doesn’t believe in anything

It doesn’t matter whether he believes in anything, as long as he is respectful of your beliefs.

5. Looks


Age range

Height

Body type

Hair color, hairstyle

Eye color

Voice



Done?

Reread your list and erase those items that is not absolute must-haves. Trim your list down to the bare-bones. Keep only those items that you are convinced you cannot live without.

Keep in mind that nobody is perfect. Make it your goal to find someone that will measure up to at least 80% of your list.

You now have a perfect partner wish-list in your hand. Keep this list in mind when looking, meeting and deciding on potential partners. Use it as a blue-print for your future happiness.

Follow the links below to learn more about wish-lists:

Best of you wish-list
Wish-lists

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