messed up relationship

by lay
(durban)

ok so im datin this guy 4 like 11 months nw.. his 18 and im 15, he lives in jhb and i live in durban. we hardly get to see eachother.. he did cheat on me before and he admitted it and he sed his willing to change..
so we gt bk and after 11 months we broke up cos we kept fightin and stuff and all my friends made me end it wit him, but we bth still do love eachother and he even made his sister send me flowers 4 my bday.
i knw he loves me and i love him too but he just charms and messes around wit other girls.. and i feel to insecure
we spoke about it to many times and it always ends up in a fight.. do i end it with him 4 good or still stay with him?


My answer:

Loving a bad boy is hard and will not become easier as you go along.

He has shown you who he is. He is a cheater that makes you unhappy. He said that he will change but nobody can just decide to change and then just change. It is not that easy and will need a lot of soul-searching, learning new habits and getting a new line of thinking. This kind of change needs to happen with the help of a therapist or a mature mentor.

Love means being with someone that makes you happy, who treats you as if you are the most precious girl ever, respects you feelings and puts your happiness before his own.

Consider leaving him. It will be difficult in the beginning and you will feel sad and lonely, but after a while it will get better. In time you will meet someone that is right for you and will make you happy.

Read treat me well to see what to look out for in a partner. Although I've written this page to help people choose a marriage partner, it will give you some idea for what you need to look at in a partner.