Love vs lust

by Jade
(East Coast)

How do you distinguish between love and lust?




My answer:

Love:
You talk for hours on end. You're more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.
You think she is beautiful even without make up while cleaning house.

You want to be with her, with or without sex. "Waiting" only makes her more precious to you.
You are convinced that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be "the One", and you're even thinking about marrying her.

It becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.

You include her in all your plans, and when you are away from her, the missing is intense and you keep on sneaking off to send her "I miss you" messages.

You become a true romantic, sending her flowers, love notes and even try writing love poems. Music becomes very meaningful and she is always on your mind.

If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.

She makes you want to be a better man.
She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you'd do anything to make her happy.

Lust
Your focus is her looks and body.
Even before you know her name, you're fantasizing about her naked having sex with you.

It wouldn't make a difference to you if you never had a conversation with her. You contact her just to keep the door open.

You only want to be with her for sex, nothing else. If you have to be with her and not have sex, she gets on your nerves and you find yourself fantasizing about other women.

After you go out trolling for tail with your buddies on Friday night, you then call her at 1 a.m. for some drunken action.

You leave straight after sex, no cuddling, no breakfast the next morning, just "I gotta go."