How to write a internet dating profile

If you write a profile that set you apart from the rest of the dating crowd, you will get response from the “right” persons and it will be easy to eliminate the rest.

It will be so much easier for you to pick the “right” people to respond to, by looking at their reaction to your profile. If you get a response that is on the same level as the profile you have written you are on the right road!

Your online dating profile consists of 3 very important parts you need to pay attention to:

1. an eye-catching headline/tagline,
2. your best possible photo,
3. an intriguing description of you and your potential partner.

Your headline is you first opportunity to attract (the right) attention, to be different, slightly intriguing and to get that wanted response: a click to the rest of your profile and possibly first contact.

Make it your goal to move away form the usual cheesy, boring, predictable, needy tag-lines: “Just looking,” “Trying this again,” “in search of” or the most repeated and redundant phrase on the net: “fun!”

Decide on what you want to achieve with your headline. What do you want to convey? Who do you want to invite into your life? What kind of interest do you want to create?

Create interest - “Living the dream! Wanna join me?”

Create a slogan for one - “Strong self-made man wants to share his world with a special lady”

Issue an intriguing invitation - “Would you dance in the rain with me?” or “Would you travel the world with me?”

Contemplation - "Aquila Non Capit Muscas" -- "The Eagle Catches Not Flies" or "The odds are good, but the goods are odd."

Sharing humor - "Free chocolate!" or “Pick me, Pick me!”

Witty - "75 model for lease with option to buy"

I cannot emphasize enough that you need to use the best photo of you on your online dating profile that you can lay your hands on. A good photo will get you as much as ten times more attention than a profile with no photo or a bad photo.

No, you don’t need to look like a super-model but make a point to look like someone that is likeable, warm, someone one can be comfortable with and even possibly fall in love with.

Don’t – use photos of you standing next to a car, motorcycle, Jet Ski, 18-wheeler, large dead fish, brand-new bride/girlfriend, bed covered in stuffed animals or your figurine collection. (do you really need “things” to make you acceptable?)

Avoid using provocative photo’s (unless you are only interested in quick meaningless encounters) or photos with you with a drink in hand surrounded by your drinking buddies.Women want to look at a man’s eyes – so stay away from sunglasses or a cap pulled low over your eyes.

Do – use a photo that’s up close, clear and recent. Pick your secondary photo’s showing you in different life situations and different sides of your personality. You want potential partners to identify with and to want to be part of your life. Post a photo of a close up of your face and a larger, full body shot if possible.

Rather be upfront and honest about your looks now than being rejected for lying or misrepresenting yourself later.

This is your opportunity to let potential partners know who you are and to create enough interest so that the right person will contact you.

Stay away from the obvious - "love to laugh and have fun/love nature/candle-light dinners/long walks on the beach” (who doesn't?) or that you're "looking for a real man/woman" (as opposed to what, a blow-up doll?) "Tired of people playing games" or "Slender does not mean overweight!" That kind of remark only makes you seem bitter, hurt and sarcastic.

Be unique and use detail - instead of saying: "I am successful, have a great sense of humor, humble, hardworking and am wise enough to make you a priority in my life " use this opportunity to be different by using detail and personality.

Try showing instead of telling: "I've worked really hard in my life to become who I am today. Every time I've fallen down, I've dusted myself off, checked out my wounds, gotten up, and tried again. Being successful to me means having the freedom to do what I want ... having time to hang out with you."

Listing your qualities (as everyone else does) makes you disappear into the same crowd everyone else belongs to. “I don’t care what you drive and what kind of suit you wear, but I am very interested in who you are and who I will be when you are next to me.”

Create an emotional hook – by sharing of yourself and how you feel about your life. Instead of writing: "I love to travel and visit new places," rather put it this way: "Traveling is a passion for me. Whenever I travel, I discover something new about myself and I appreciate my life even more. When I visited India and were looking at the temples, I were not only able to see history but also feel history."

When you share your love of travel as if talking to a special friend, it is easy to picture visiting India or traveling with you and wanting to be part of that. If you just describe something by putting it in a list, you're not going to create an emotional connection.

Grammatical errors and spelling mistakes – set yourself apart from the rest of the dating world by actually doing a spell check on the written part of your dating profile. It is very difficult to seriously consider someone who asks for an “intelligant mate” or “a sole mate.” Spelling and grammatical mistakes makes you look sloppy, lazy and that making an effort is beyond you.

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