Escaping abuse

by Barbara

I just left my abusive husband after a year of marriage and I have our son. His abuse makes me feel horrible and alone. How do I start again? How do I get over this? I’m afraid that I will be weak and go back to him. He will not hurt the baby. What can I do?


My answer:

It is always scary to start over because you have to deal with the unexpected, getting a new life in place while coping with a lot of emotions at the same time. You already took the biggest step: leaving.

That is so brave and with that one single decision you indicated that you want more and better from life for yourself as well as your baby. Hold onto that.

He may not hurt your baby physically but by treating you badly he is shaping your son into a dysfunctional human being. You need to stand firm now and keep reminding yourself that you don't want your son to grow up in an abusive, unhealthy home filled with tension and negative input.

You want him to grow up in a happy home where personal growth and fulfillment is paramount. He needs to learn from his father figure (not necessarily his biological father) how to treat a women and how to deal with life with integrity.

Take charge of your life. YOU are in control. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of your son. My best wishes go with you.