Don't know what to do..!!
I'm a boy, I really don't know how i should ask my question.. Guess you guys will understand my problem..
Let me say it short and sweet.. though it's not sweet..
We were best friends since childhood..both families know that we are good friends..But somehow her father misunderstood our friendship and worn her 'not to talk with me again'..SHE IS VERY LOYAL TO HER FAMILY.. and she does.. I Still don't know what went wrong.. :( :(
her father is very strict in Religion.(we are in different religions).. I guess this is the problem..
but she talked to me when she got a chance..by the way I got more than one year to think and i realize that im really in love with her.. I can't forget her, I really miss her ,I really need her..Still there's a big whole in my life.. dont know how to tell,but such things happen to me i cant explain them.. I really love her,,
Once i told this to one of her friends and she told me that her(my best friend) ideas are the same.. that she also in love with me..
but she will never let me know it because she is soo loyal to her family.. after a month or two she got her phone back and called me.. and we had contact since then..
one day she asked me that "do you love me??" because she got some clue from her friends.. Once i told "no".. but after i told her about my idea.. she said "forget that" But how can i do that?? :(
and after one and a half year I asked it again..(I asked it through the phone..both 1st and 2nd times..because i don't have any chance to meet her) and the 2nd time she said the same thing..
I know that she loves me.. but she is soo afraid to her family...so what should i do now?? Please don't say to forget her.. because i had some bad ideas to loose my life.. i really want her back.. she is my only one and forever..i dont need anyone else.. please help me.. What should I do now?? i'm so afraid that i will loose her forever.. and now she don't talk to me like before.. will she forget me?? please tell me what to do??
My answer:
You have two choices: either you walk away and start focusing on other things or you need to find a way to convince her family that you are good for her.
You don't say what happened to make her family negative towards you so it is very difficult for me to advice you on this.
Figure out ways to get back into their good graces, set right what went wrong and change the the way you are living to convince them that you are serious. You need to win their respect back.
If it is not possible the win their favor back, you need to let her go. Holding on to her will only cause you and her pain and tears. When you love someone you want them to be happy. Even it it is very, very difficult to let go now you will in time see that you did the right thing by giving her (and you) a chance to focus on other things and find happiness and peace.
Fight for her if you can but it that is not possible: have the grace of letting her go and wishing her well.
