Caught bf reading my e-mail

by Magaret

I've recently moved in with my bf. We have been seeing each for the last year and decided the time was right to move to the next level. So far so good, except ... I caught him reading my e-mail. I quickly backtracked and am sure he didn't see me.

I'm not up for a confrontation, but need some ideas on how to deal with this?


My answer:

To keep the situation calm but still get your point across tell him how much you enjoy sharing your life, experiences and news with him. If he knows everything about you before you have the chance to share it with him, he is spoiling the sharing aspect between you. You don't need to say more that that, he will get the message.

You need to get to the bottom of this. Is he feeling left out and therefore snooping? Is he jealous and checking up on you? Is he feeling insecure?

Give him the opportunity to ask you direct, honest questions so that he doesn't feel the need to spy on you. You also need to learn about his past and track record in order to find and resolve problem areas.

Your first instinct to keep things calm is spot-on but you need to find what is driving his need to violate your privacy boundaries. Invading your privacy is a line should never be crossed.