Bf doing things I don't like

by Frustrated

My bf smokes and drinks. I love him dearly but feel very uncomfortable about his bad habits. He agreed to drink less and smoke less and has kept to doing that. However, he still drinks and smokes even if it's less than before and I hate it.


My answer:

Living with differences is part of every relationship. Nobody is perfect and will exactly fit into the role that is your dream partner.

How to deal with this? You need to tell him how you feel and why. Do it in a respectful, loving, kind manner. Give him a reasonable time to think on it and then to act on it. If he wants to change, support and encourage him.

If he doesn't want to change or are luke warm on it, you have to decide if you can accept him as he is, or whether this is a deal breaker. Think carefully on this, make your decision and then act accordingly. Don't let it draw out and develop into fights, anger and resentment. The decision is yours. Be kind but firm.

Your love and encouragement may just be what he needs to turn himself around!