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Best of you list
The purpose of creating a best of you list, is to assist you in finding and using your best qualities in dating situations. Only when you know and love the best of you, should you create a
wish-list for your partner
, to enable you to successfully decide on the right partner for you.
Imagine ….. if you had somebody walking in front of you, announcing you as you entered a room, what will they be calling out?
Scenario no. 1:
“I PRESENT TO YOU ............ !!! She is overweight, mousy, and generally boring. She spends her time in sweats and T’s and seldom goes out. She is available but will need to be treated very carefully because she has low self-esteem”
Is this you? Wouldn’t you rather be the following?
Scenario no. 2:
“I PRESENT TO YOU ............ !!! She is confident and refreshingly different. She is comfortable in her own skin, has interesting opinions and see the world as a wonderful place filled with new discoveries to be made. She is available and will settle for nothing less than the best”
Wow! What a huge difference! Can you see that scenario no. 2 will put you in the (yippee!) position where potential partners will come after you and pursue you, for just being the best version of you?
You won’t have to tie yourself into knots trying to be something you’re not, trying to fit in, or trying desperately to please.
How to morph yourself into the best version of you? You have to be very honest with yourself and then start making some changes to the way you see yourself.
Remember: you are who you think you are.
Let’s start this process by making the following 2 lists. Spend as much time as you need on each of them and be brutally honest.
1. Your weakest traits
2. Your strongest traits
Done?
Now, take your weakest traits list and carefully consider how you can minimize, heal and change your negatives. Take note of how your negatives are holding you back and contaminate your relationships. There is no reason to live with old, unresolved pain – change what you can. If you need help with this, get help.
Be your own best friend, see yourself as very precious and worth of being set free of pain and negative self-talk. Again, spend as much time on this as you need – don’t cut corners or gloss over sensitive areas. You can become the best of you!
After all that healing and restoring, take your strongest traits list and make a commitment to yourself to grow and cherish your positives - to become the best of you. Give your positives the most important place in you life, flaunt them and love them. If you love you – you will be loved.
Remember the feeling of being in love? Take your positives that give you that loving feeling and embrace them. Fall in love with yourself. Practice going around with the knowledge that you are special and so unique that there is only one of you in the world. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
As you change the way you think about yourself, you will start to see yourself in a different light and your behavior-patterns will change accordingly. The best of you will start shining through. When you realize you are the one in control of how you think and how you filter what you perceive others think about you, you will start to control how you feel, behave and how other people respond to you. It is a magical moment when you realize that you control you.
Follow the links below to learn more about love wish-lists:
Partner wish-list Create a partner wish-list by defining your potential partner's personality, social skills, relationship style, spirituality and looks.
Wish-lists The first step in your walk towards finding love is to create your two most important love wish-lists.
After all that healing and restoring, take your strongest traits list and make a commitment to yourself to grow and cherish your positives - to become the best of you. Give your positives the most important place in you life, flaunt them and love them. If you love you – you will be loved.
