Although we all like to think that love is perfection and disagreements only happen to other people, the reality is that all of us will find ourselves (sometime or other) in a position where we need to apologize and to write an apology note to try to make things right again.
If the disagreement is still very severe and calm communication is still difficult to manage, writing an letter of apology can be a great way to bridge the gap between you two and get a conversation started again.
When writing a “I’m sorry” letter, keep the following in mind:
- Keep it simple and from the heart.
- Accept responsibility for the part you played. Apologize.
- Ask for a chance to talk things out.
How to write an apology love letter
I think the main goal of an apology love letter should be to calm upset and hurt feelings, and to break down the barriers between you, so that you can discuss things and come to a resolution.
- Start your letter by apologizing. Tell your partner that you are sorry for …., and that you are also sorry that things between you are difficult and unhappy and that you want to set things right.
- Go on by focusing on the problem. Explain to your partner how it affected your way of thinking, your feelings and the relationship. Take responsibility for your part in it. Do not blame – focus only on your side of it.
- Finally make sure that your partner knows how important he is to you and how much you value your relationship. Remind him how happy, fulfilled and loved you feel when you are together.
Be vulnerable, and ask for his understanding and help in resolving this problem.